What would you consider your parenting style?
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Question by Funny Bug: What would you consider your parenting style?
Mainstream Parenting or Attached Parenting?
Which do you think benefits the baby best? Would you try the opposite with your next baby or stay with the same style as your first?
Best answer:
Answer by Stephanie Johnson
Certainly not attachment.
Know better? Leave your own answer in the comments!
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I think most people are somewhere in between.
You could make an argument that attachment parenting is the best for the baby, but it could drive some people crazy, which would not make it best for baby.
I do not associate myself with any particular parenting style. I do what I feel is best, and in some situations that is different between one child and the other.
Probably between the two, but more mainstream. I’m a working mum, so purely attachment simply doesn’t suit me. However, i don’t believe in Crying it out, i prefer disposable nappies, i don’t co sleep with my babies, unless it’s an early morning cuddle and lie in, I see nothing wrong with playpens, as it’s good for babies to entertain themselves every now and again. I don’t believe in spanking, and i’m not completely for baby led weaning, as there was simply never time. I much preferred to express milk so my hubby could feed them too. With my now 9 month olds, i didn’t change anything a great deal. But i did go for baby led weaning, and stopped breastfeeding at 6 months by mutual agreement. I had to stop breastfeeding my first babies early on, as i didn’t want to breastfeed whilst pregnant. I always felt guilty that my second babies breastfed for longer.
I suppose on most things, I would be considered mainstream parenting. I bottle fed, she’s slept in her own bed from the start, we use a stroller, we use disposable diapers. But we don’t CIO or spank.
But I would also fit into attachment parenting because I encourage our bond by holding her whenever she wants to be held, I use gentle discipline, I go by my daughters cues and not what a book tells me. But I don’t baby wear or bed share.
So, I fall in the middle of the two. I plan to parent the same with the next baby. It’s worked out pretty well for us so far with our daughter.
attentive, but not attached. i think kids need attention and love, but also independence and sometimes even a little discomfort.
i think the baby’s individual needs/wants/personality need to be considered, so it doesn’t make tremendous sense to decide on a parenting style before a child is even born. my four kids had different personalities and i did not treat them all exactly the same way.
What is mainstream in your opinion? Everything that isn’t attachement?
There are as many different styles of parenting as there are parents. My husband and I do it our way, but I assure you it is nothing even close to attachment parenting.
I do what works best for my family and my kids, whatever you call that.
i have different parenting styles for each of my kids
I’d say I’m right in the middle of those 2, with a dash of laidback in there.
Definitely not attachment… it worked for us because of the personalities of our older kids. I do have a really clingy 3-year-old, but attachment parenting just isn’t for me…
Effective. I tried the same way with all 3, because it worked.